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Tuesday, February 28, 2006

A realistic Word

Dear Diary,

The world is realistic... Far too realistic... Or maybe it's only in Singapore...

So cruel that it kills and shatter my perfect world... My optimistic mentality...

I just gradually grew to understand how looks and money is the most important thing.

If you are not pretty like me, but your friends says it's ok, "you just need a kind heart, as long as you remain kind & nice you would be the most beautiful person... "

Let me tell you, it's not true. Your friends are merely too kind to you, they were merely trying to comfort you. You don;t get it? Well the underlying message is, if you are kind, the BLIND would find you beautiful, but hello in the world 99.9% of the population are not blind! So go bang your head on the wall and die!

There are many times over interviews and I overheard them saying, "Hey I think we need someone with better appearance! Is this the best the agency can give?"

I had been wondering why there are many people like me that can't get a job based on my many years of working experience & exposure... Compare to many other fresh graduates, I strongly believe we don't lose out to any of them but why why????

I finally realized...Other than luck, it's looks afterall... It's the shortcut to lots of things... Good looking people always get their way through... haiz... But we cant help it if we look like this... We try to make ourselves presentable liao... But this is the best what... So what else can we do?? Do cosmetic surgery?

Then you need money... Which is why money is the next important thing..

Money give you power! If you are ugly like me, then you need money, so that you can do some plastic surgery. Even if you don't, with the money, everyone would come sucking you like a leech! It's a fact, I seen and experience so much of all these nonsense...

If you ask the pageant people what they want money or peace... They wld say 'World Peace'
For goodness sake, if there's no money where got world peace... Without money cannot even satisfy basic needs these days, got peace for what, peace liao oso not happy.

The whole world tells me, nah it's not true... Come on face it... You with good looks or money, asked yourself... Compare to all the rest... Don't you always get the express way to things? The world is realistic! This had been the case since centuries back.... It's a fact... In the past at least a dumb piece of paper can bring you somewhere, but now there are so many graduates down the streets, so what else they look for? Appearance right... God damnit!

I had always believe EVERYTHING HAPPEN FOR A REASON! But now I'm starting to doubt my own principles and beliefs... God is never fair... He makes the millions of poor little things in the 3rd world starve to death no matter how hard they try, how much effort they put in, while on the other side, some lucky things just get what they want with an out-stretched arm... WTF!

Stop asking me to not compare... That's because you are living in a better off scenario... Think if you are in others shoe! I know I'm not the worst off, yes there are many more worst off, but stop consoling yourself... Since when your teacher taught you to compare to the people with lousier grades!

I don't see the light, the meaning of humans living on... The earth is round but the world is not. Sometimes, death is not as scary as one thought... I wonder why those that are dying on the bed still struggle to live on... why don't they let things come...Death is not as scary, it might be a release to them, it might meant an open door in the heaven.

Ok enough of the rattling, irregardless how realistic and cruel the world is, life goes on...Guess I just have to go via the hard way, go beg for money... If you see me down the streets, kindly donate some money haha... afterall I'm a high class beggar k, at least I'm not the ugliest and I got a degree can! =p

Saturday, February 18, 2006

Words Enlightening

Dear Diary,






Dont you think the words appear so enlightening and true.... Posted by Picasa

Wednesday, February 15, 2006

Good Sex is Good For You

Dear Diary,

I was reading some health article when this article caught my eye.

GOOD SEX IS GOOD FOR YOU!

"Life without love is like a coconut in which the milk is dried up."
Henry David Thoreau
"Good sex....Improves our health and may even contribute to our longevity."


Scientific evidence is accumulating support what many of us have suspected all along: good sex not only adds great enjoyment to our lives, but it also actually improves our health and may even contribute to our longevity.

In a new book called Sexual Healing, Dr. Paul Pearsall, Director of Behavioral Medicine at Detroit's Beaumont Hospital, writes that the joys and pleasures of living life and loving may provide us with something called an "intimacy inoculation" that actually protects us from disease.

Dr. Pearsall, who cites numerous other researchers, concludes, "Growing numbers of physicians now recognize that the health of the human heart depends not only on such factors as genetics, diet, and exercise, but also --to a large extent-- on the social and emotional health of the individual."

Sexual healing is achieved primarily through the daily challenge of maintaining a close, intimate relationship which, when accomplished, leads to balance between our health and healing systems.

Can lack of sexual intimacy create a risk factor for certain diseases? Dr. Pearsall cites research and his own clinical experience ndicating that sexual dissatisfaction seems to be prevalent prior to a heart attack in a high percentage of persons. Conversely, sexual contentment appears related to less severe migraine headaches, fewer and less-severe symptoms of premenstrual syndrome for women, and a reduction in symptoms related to chronic arthritis for both genders.
Although the exact biological mechanisms are not yet identified, many researchers are investigating how our thoughts, feelings, brain, immune system and sexual/genital system interact, influence each other, and affect our health. There may be an actual biological drive toward closeness, intimacy, and being connected to other human beings.

When we experience intimate, mutually caring sexual intimacy, we may experience a measurable change in neurochemicals and hormones that pour through the body and help promote health and healing.

"Hormones that pour through the body help promote health and healing."
Does this mean that to live longer or be more healthy we just need to DO IT more often or better? Of course not! Sex is a much broader concept that genital connecting or having an orgasm. Psychologist and author Gina Ogden, Ph.D. notes in her book, "Women Who Love Sex", that sex has everything to do with openness, connection to and bonding with a partner, feelings about what is happening to us, and memories. For those who love it, sex permeates their lives and is not merely a specialized, time-intensive, physical activity that takes place under the covers--as quickly as possible.

As a result of interviewing many women, Dr. Ogden learned that sexual desire, or lust, was produced by much more than physical stimulation. For women, according to Dr.Ogden, it has more to do with feelings of connectedness in their relationships: "Heart to heart, soul to soul, even mind to mind."

"For women, it has to do with feelings of connectedness in their relationships."
When discussing sexual connecting, Dr. Ogden's interviewees spoke of a FLOWING CONTINUUM OF PLEASURE, ORGASM, AND ECSTASY, rather than a one-time experience. They also described peak sexual experiences as coming from stimulation all over their bodies--not just from their genitals--including fingers, toes, hips, lips, neck, and earlobes.

Obviously, arousal and satisfaction evolve not only from receiving sexual energy, but also from the joy of stimulating one's partner. Sex, then, is a commitment of give and take.
Finally, the women Dr. Ogden studied have their own concepts of safe sex, essential to experiencing sexual pleasure and ecstasy. This kind of safe sex does NOT relate to preventing STDs or pregnancy; it relates, instead, to emotional and spiritual safety. Such safety is CRUCIAL for sexual closeness. Most of the women insisted that warm, loving connections with themselves and with their partners were essential to and inseparable from the experience of sexual ecstasy.

When people feel deeply close while merely holding hands, they are having sex. When people display caring for each other through hugs, caresses, and kissing, they are also having sex. When connecting people in a crowded room wink at each other in their own secret way, they are communicating sex to each other; such non-contact sex can be excitedly arousing and emotionally fulfilling. And, of course, during sexual union when the sky seems to open so a lightning bolt can strike the couple--while fireworks ignite and the earth stops spinning-- this is sex, too.

But wait. Do men also need this almost spiritual connection to enjoy sex and achieve good health? Well, yes and no. Men need sex and men need emotional connection, but many men don't necessarily need to put the two together!

According to Dr. Bernie Zilbergelt, who wrote The New Male Sexuality, sex for women is intertwined with personal connection. For some men , sex is unto itself--an act to be engaged in with or without love, with or without commitment, with or without connection.

Presently, younger boys are being socialized in a more enlightened manner; consequently, male attitudes toward sexual union are changing. But,unfortunately, the socialization of many men born in or before the 60's provided very little information of value to the formation and maintenance of intimate relationships. These men were taught, as youths, that males showed love by doing, not by talking or "connecting" with girls.

"Fortunately, anyone can...restore closeness, intimacy, and sexual flow."
Older men were usually also socialized to be strong and self-reliant, which usually means one doesn't easily talk about or admit personal problems. Many such men do not acknowledge worries and fears to their partners; they simply try to handle everything on their own.

A consequence of such reticence is (1) lack of intimacy in the relationship, with the wife feeling "left out" of her husband's life; and (2) men often don't get what they need because they don't know how to ask for it, so they feel distanced and frustrated when they really want closeness and intimacy as much as their partner does.

Sex under these conditions creates distance in the relationship or creates sexual dysfunction which drives an even deeper wedge into the relationship. This is especially true if a man is married to a woman must be wanted by her husband to have her sexuality validated.
Consequently, sex routinely becomes mechanical, unfeeling, and unfulfilling. Fortunately, anyone can break this vicious cycle and restore closeness, intimacy, and sexual flow in the relationship.

Isn't it amazing how mother nature construct our body....
Reminds me of a health course I have taken some time back on how we should trust our body and love it. How we should take our body as our bestest friend.... I'll talk about that next time bah... Below are Just summary in point form... Contribution from Sly Bear.


















Jus sharing some general knowledge....Shall pen off here... Bye..

Tuesday, February 14, 2006

Happy Friendship Day

Dear Diary,

To all my dear Friends, Using this special day to Thanks each and everyone of you,
whether I know you anot;
whether we are close anot;
whether we see each other often anot;
It doesn't matter;
I believe each and everyone of you plays a special role in my life.
Be it only 1 second
You are all SPECIAL

To my heart felt friends beloved
(You know who you are)
Thanks for standing by my side
Thanks for being there for me rain & Shine
Thanks for braving the rough patches & sharing the joy with me
Each & every moment for the 23 years have been deeply engraved in my heart

We might be meetin less often
Talking less often
but the feeling had never been less

Whatever the future will be
Whatever or whoever we would become
The True Friendship would never be gone

Thanks for Everything!

HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY!

Monday, February 13, 2006

Apology post

Dear Diary,

Hey people, Few days back I posted an article to spread the news to help this 4 yr old kid who's in need of O- blood. Remember?? U shld be able to see the article if you scroll down. Anyway, pls stop doing so. From a reader's notification, I was told that the entire thing was a scram and there are no such hospital. I did a quick search on the website and he was right. No such hospital. The poor guy whose mobile number has been spread around and I am one of those that have a part in circulating, SORRY.

I apologized from the bottom of my heart to whoever he/she is. Sorry I ought to have checked on the authenticity of the message before i circulate blindly. Believe me, I did it purely out of good will to help the poor kid.

I felt so guilty and pissed off. Guilty for making such a grieve mistake and instead of helping someone else and building more good karma, I just accumulated my bad Karma. Yet I'm pissed, I'm pissed by the evil person who started sending this sms n email, he/she ought to be punished for playing with people's kindness, for building happiness on others misfortune and mishap.

What an evil thing.

Have the person ever wonder, what if he/she or in future someone really needed help, who would bother to help? what if their kid happen to be the one that needed the blood, have they ever thought of the consuquence? Once bitten twice shy, the NKF is a good example. Everyone heard of the wolfes story, no one would wanna help again the next time if such thing were to happen in future.


Whoever that started this stupid message, you are so childish. You will get your Karma, you will regret what you are doing. I really wonder why he or she is doing this? FOr fun? To make themself appear smarter???

Hello, Wake up! it's not fun and not funny at all. How can anyone even take a life and death issue to play about. And worst, it doesnt make them appear any smarter thinking he make us all look like a fool. He's jus making use of our kindness and our love, and by not thinking of the consequence, he's the foolish one not us.

STOP this whoever you are!!!!

Repent and your sin shall be cleaned and forgiven!

Sunday, February 12, 2006

Funny Joke of the Day

Dear Diary,

Three girls died and were brought to the Gates of Heaven.

Upon entering the gate, they were halted by St. Peter and his obedient angel.
St. Peter told the girls, "Before entering you must answer this simple question."

"Which is ...?", they replied in unison.

"Have you been a good girl?", he asked the first girl.

"Oh yes", she said. "I was a virgin before I got married, and was still virgin even after I got married."

"Very good", said St. Peter. "Angel, give this girl... the golden key."
"Have you been a good girl?", he asked the second girl.

"Oh, quite good", she said. "I was a virgin before I got married, but was not after I got married."

"Very good", said St. Peter. "Angel, give this girl... the silver key."
"Have you been a good girl?", he asked the third girl.

"Oh no, not at all", she said. "I practically had sex with every guy I met before and after I got married. Anywhere, anytime."

"Very good", said St. Peter. "Angel, give this girl... my room key."

Tuesday, February 07, 2006

Someone out there need you

Dear Diary,

Calling out to everyone!!! Whoever you are wherever you are...

Complains we all have... About not having enough money, about having a tough life, about this about that... But people stop complaining for awhile and do something constructive. Build some good Karma.

Blood Needed Urgently for 4-yr old Yau Jia Xin needs O- blood at Nam Hwa Ee Hospital

IC.No. 0124275813
0124930031

HP: 96724732

Pls help to spread the news, tell all your friends go for a blood test.
You are saving a young life, the future.

The little gal still has a bright future awaiting her but only if each and everyone can do your bit to help. You may not have the suitable blood type, but you can help to spread the word, the world is so big, I'm sure someone wld be a suitable blood donor.

Febuary is a month of love, so Spread your love now!

Monday, February 06, 2006

The message from God

Dear Diary,

Had a bad fall....Smack face to face to someone else and landed on my back with my elbow hitting hard on the hard ground. The acute pain shot up killing the nerves giving me an almost instantaneous numbness. I tried to climb up for the fear of more embarrassment created however I lost control of my arm and body completely.

The guy was alright and just before I almost passed out I heard him asked if I was alright. ..
My vision blurred...

When I finally got up with my friends help, I could hardly stand on my feet. Everything appeared double. I simply cant get hold of my body as much as I wanted too...

Just as I was sitting down to fully regain my conscious, images and thought ran through my mind... It appear to be messages that god is trying to convey to me.

The fall comes to me like those I have throughout my life. It always comes unexpected... When it's a light fall you can still climb up, when the fall gets so hard, you will be so injured, so hurt that you cant climb back up as much as you wanted to... You get so out of control no matter how determined, how much faith you have in getting up... You just cant get it your way...

I recall how SJ always try to encourage me by asking my to be optimistic but this incident just tells me vise versa. Sometimes it's no use having in the mind too, cuz we cant change the circumstances and changing surroundings. He asked me not to give up on myself, I'm trying not to but I dunno what else I can do too. I did what everyone advise and what everyone else have done... I dunno what's wrong.

Just like every losers, I starting to ask myself WHY?? Why is it like that? How can I reverse things? The two voices in me is having a battle now... I'm losing control of everything, me and my own life. Jus as I lose control, my evil twin is getting hold of me...I realized I'm getting lazier by the days, fatter, less motivated... I can see myself getting uglier and haggard... I know it makes me lose more confidence... Makes me wanna hide at home more... sales going down... Things get worst... I know this is bad but somehow my evil twin call all the shots now.. Just cant be bothered... Cant be bothered with anything anyone... Even if it means pissing everyone... I care less... No words of wisdom seems to get into me... Starting to forget how it feels to smile from the heart...

Part of me is still concious... but I dunno how long more I can sustain...

I missed the times with my friends... but I dunno how to face them now... not with the current me..

How can I get away from my evil twins, the voice of evil...

How can the knot in the heart be un-tangled...

Dear God, pls tell me how, what I can do to get out of poverty, get out of the falling to the bottomless pit, gain back my confidence. Pls teach me how to smile again... Pls send me another enlightenment... and let me get control of the evil twin. I will be more realistic I promise, no more dreams, I promise I'll be less ambitious... I'll be good... be kind to everyone... Ill build more Karma... I'll work hard.. very hard... with my very last bit of faith and energy, I know you'll help those that help themsleves... I dun wanna give up yet... I dun wanna lose everything yet...

Thursday, February 02, 2006

HAPPY NEW YEAR

Dear Diary,





Ups & Down it can Be...
Happy & Sad it had been..

Terrible it might be..
It's Over
For it's a brand new Year

A fortunate Doggie Year
for you & me

Forget the Sorrow
Forget the Pain
Forgive the villians
Release the Sins

It's from me to you the warmest wish
The wish for prosperity
The wish for health
The wish for better love
The wish for good luck

Bless you are now
with my prayers & guardian

Love

GONG XI FA CAI

Hi friends,
Wanted to delicate another e card actually with everyone's name but the file after completion is far too big to upload hence it's 'revamp' to a much simplier one. It's a brand new yr. Many things happen in 2005, in the yr of chicken. Not sure if it's good for you but Things are not be too smooth for me, many quarrels, many unhappiness, nonetheless I have decided to release all burdens and not look back and if it happen on you, you shld jus forget abt it too...What ever that had happen, what ever hurt that was done, cast it into the sea and bury deep under the sand.

I learn new things through all the mishaps. I know I have changed, i'm not the same me anymore, I'm not the perfectionist anymore, I realised I cant have everything my way, I'm far too confident and arrogant... I suddenly realised I have far too many faults... gee... Hopefully my change is for the better... but I wonder why I'm unhappy after changing...maybe more improvement needed... But nevermind them for now... it's new year... it ought to be a happy occassion so here's my wishes to all... Hope you guys wld have a much better year...Must earn more money k... haha...

To Eileen, Sorry I made you worry, but U dun have to, whatever will come will come, i'll jus leave it to fate. Tech is advance so we can still keep in touch. Thanks for everything.

To Cobly, Thanks for giving me so much advise and thanks for bee so supportive. You had been a wonderful friend. Wanted to give you a surprise with the flash but unfortunately the file's too huge... gee... sorry for the disappointment.

 
 

++ The Author

Choo Kai Ling
Attitude Princess
DOB:6th Oct 82 (Libra)

cklbluelady@yahoo.com.sg

MSN cklbluelady@hotmail.com

You are reading the blog of a gal, with very much ATTITUDE.

A pampered spoiled little princess blessed with many knights and 'Royal' friends.
In general I am a very typical Librans with Confident, cheerful & positive is my Logo.  Basically, I'm sociable & plain active person.. One who holds great aspiration and dreams for the future. While career is my major priority, Friends & family holds a strong priority as well.

I love beautiful things and ones impression matters to me so I rate my frenz based on the 2 criteria. It sounds shallow but it's important my frenz know how to make themselves presentable cuz impression counts. I'm not pretty yet I feel it's important to leave a good impression with great attitude.

I chose my frenz. chose who i go out with and I'm particular. I guess I'm not lack of frenz but i draw clear line the "category" of fren they are in. Nonetheless, I'm lucky to have many truthful ones...


++Hobbies:
Shopping...Gals Talk, chilling out.. Anything that's fun..
Arts: designing & Doodling, Sports/Outdoor games: Swimming, Roller Blading
Ball games: Touch Rugby, net ball, volley ball etc etc


++Favorite Flower:
White Lily, Calla Lilly

 

++Favorite Books:
Love reading magazines..
Motivating books like:
Who moved my cheese,
Rich Dad poor dad,
I'm gifted so are you
My current Favorite goes to-
Da vinci's Code (GREAT BOOK)

++Favorite Shows:
I love Korean &Japanese Drama...
Cartoons counted?? I love Smurf -My all time favorite.. Haha. .
I Love Anime too like Naruto, GTO, Bleach etc etc..
 Smallville, Friends, Charmed, Alley Mcbeal, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, and a whole lot more..

++Favorite Dog:
Golden Retriever



++Schools I Attended:
BHSP CTSS SAJC CJC JJC NTU
 
++Goal Station:
Pathfinder Prudential Marilyn Child care Sentosa (Faber Tours) NTUC Media
Singapore Science Centre
Bossard Citi
 

+ + My Favorite links
 

Facebook
Friendsville
Multiply
Hi 5
Yahoo Groups
Singet SMS
Starhub SMS
photobucket
Flickr
B3Tapix
Village Photos
Shopping Life style

++ My Wishlist



SLR
LV Wallet  
Addidas Sneakers      
Shades
Rolex Watch      
Issey Perfume
Burberry Polo T
Honda Civic


 

++ Blogs I Read

++Friends

Joel
Eileen Wong
Esjay
Baby Shuwen
Yiling (UOC)
Fanny (UOC)
Lemon T (UOC)
Brother CK
Jolynn
Giovanna
Kevan
Shirley
Vickey
Goh Chee Wee
Ricky
Kien Fee
Roger
Esther
Robin (DAC)
Daniel Ng (DAC)
Melissa
Chloe
Jun Xiong (AIA)
Adeline (SSC)
Zaki (SSC)
Janus (SSC)
Shane
Shumin (PL)
Sweet Jes
Sly Bear
Angeline
JR
Cassandra (The Bake House)

++Others

Babe
XiaXue
Poison Apple
S'pore Official Porn Site
Mr Brown
Sarng Party Girl
Kenny Sia
Big High Heels
Rockson Takumi Tan  

 

++ Friends

                  


Never Take Someone for Granted. Hold Every person close to your heart, because you might wake up one day and realize that you have lost a Diamond while you were too busy collecting stones.

Treasure Each and Every Friendship.

" Life Without Friendship is Like The Sky Without The Sun!"

++ Co-Workers

           


 

++ History

 

++ Tag


ii wish upon a s t a rr ;;
wanna be right where u are
you set my world on fire

babe i got a crush on you.
ii wish upon a s t a rr ;;
cant you see how right we are

we should be together
babe i got a crush on you.


i used to turn around and walk away
never stopped to plae
cause there was no attraction.


but in my heart you start tu grow on me
kind of suddenly
so now i’ve change direction


knowing it might seems strange
llurfe came over me
feeling that luck has changed
do you want me, like i want you?


in dis cold world, where dreams are few
baby, i want you ;
is it too much to ask for?


i’|l let you take me to places I nvr been
if you jus give in
so babe, its now or nvr


me and you, you and me ;
living a life in harmony
its magic, babe i’ve got a crush on you. YES I do... Say you do too


_____ii llurfe yoo_____

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