The "unexpected" on coach journeys

Dear Diary,

Most of the Blog supporters would have known that I'm a regular traveller to KL via coaches. Based on my research, the value option you can go for is (1) Star Mart (2) Grassland. On a non-peak season, starmart is S$20/pax (Sin-KL) for a 1-way. Get the return from KL back at RM45 (S$20). On a peak period, it would be S$30. For the above, you are entitled to a 27- seater with massage chair. For grassland, price difference for a "super" bus would be S$25 / 30 if you purchase online. OTC, S$35. General comment: SM is cheaper & faster (no stop-over) but seats are less comfortable. Alright, so much so on the price, back to the topic. Been a frequent coach rider I have encounter pretty much weird or unexpected behavior/situations. The most ridiculous would have to be awarded to a pair young lovers who simply could not resist the mutual attraction, making out in a coach 90% occupied. (BTW this couple seats diagonally infront of me as I'm at the 1seater) It started with the touching and kissing... Soon after the toilet break, the couple shifted to the last row of seats (it's not occupied, generally people wld avoid last row of seat in a long coach journey as its bumpy). 15 mins after the bus takes off, we (passengers) started to hear some moaning sounds... Like most of the other passengers, I got curious and turn my head to the source of the sound. Guess you know what we saw... The doggy style was right at our sight - their sides of the body was facing us.. Girl's hands were on the windows and one of their legs on the chair.. While some are pretty much disturbed, other were giggling and having their free show!! Unbelievable right?! I really wonder why can't they wait till they reach the hotel.. To be continued... (The "best" liar)

妇难平者，事也 - Justice

Dear Diary,

“夫难平者，事也！” 不。。。应是 “妇难平者，事也”。。。
古人有言，“王子犯法以庶民同罪”，所倡导的不就是“人人平等”吗? 可如今摆在眼前一幢幢一件件的现实又是为何呢？

有钱就能一手遮天，蛮不讲理；难道穷人只能作哑巴，让人欺压吗？
满肚子的苦水又有谁能理解，又有谁能主持公道。。。没天理啊。。。没天理！

Justice.. where is the justice??!

Thou seen it all…the unfairness, the practical world… and like it anot that is reality…
FACE IT!

When you are ill… doctors won’t save you unless you are rich…
When you are wrongly accused … lawyers won’t defend you unless you have those smelly notes…
In this society, you talk only about $$$... at least that is what thou has been enlighten…

$$$ is the devil.. The root cause of all sins committed…
Disgusted it might be, but helpless is all it can be…
Why why why….

*Stay tune* To be continued...

Flower Language

Dear Diary,

Have you ever have the difficulty in selecting the type of flowers to chose for your frenz? Flowers for your love ones.. would always be roses... but what if you are sending to ask for apology???

This is what we have got for you...

• Apple blossom - Good things to come
• Aster - ContentmentButtercup - Childishness
• Pink carnation - Gratitude
• Yellow carnation - Rejection
• Crocus - Gladness
• Daffodil - Chivalry and respect
• Daisy - Innocence and purity
• Daylily - Enthusiasm
• Dill - Lust
• Edelweiss - Daring and courage
• Forsythia - Anticipation
• Gardenia - Secret love and joy
• Blue hyacinth - Constancy
• Ivy - Wedded love and fidelity
• Lavender - Loyalty
• White lily - Heavenly purity
• Lily of the valley - Humility
• Mint - Virtue
• Orange blossom – Marriage and fertility
• Palm leaves - Victory
• Dark crimson rose - Mourning
• Pink rose - Friendship
• Red Rose - Passionate love
• Snowdrop - Hope
• Sunflower - Adoration
• Red tulip - Declaration of love
• Violet - Faithfulness

So that beautiful bouquet of dark crimson roses and white lilies surrounded by palm leaves that you just sent to your friend or love one could be telling her, "Many are mourning my victory and success within our relationship, as it's heavenly to be with you!"

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Okie.. so you say, nah.. that's too confusing, you rather stick to your roses... fine.. but you send your GF/Wife 15 roses... and she goes...

"Oh the roses are so lovely– thank you so much, dear. So why did you give me fifteen stalks?" the girl asks. "Huh? Hmm– well just thought the bouquet look nice with fifteen." Ha you just got yourself shoot!

The meaning of roses: the color of roses; the number of roses each has got their meaning. Do you know that 11 roses represent "You are my treasured one; the one I love most in my life" whereas 15 roses represent "I am truly sorry, please forgive me"? Now isn't that a total twist of the meaning for the roses you gave? What had meant to be a message of love has just turned into a message of apology; implying you was guilty of something?

Before you try to impress that someone with that bouquet of roses, make sure you know the meaning behind it, the meaning of roses; what the number of roses represent.

So how many roses do you send?

1 ROSE
On a first date, a single rose symbolises love at first sight. it can also be given in years to come to say, "I still love you."

Or

Love at the first sight; you are the one

2 ROSES
Give someone two roses to represent your mutual love and affection.

3 ROSES
Representing the couple and their shared love, a bouquet of three roses is traditional one month anniversary gift.

6 ROSES
Whether it's a school crush or a more mature passion, six roses symbolizes infatuation.

9 ROSES
To send the message “We’ll be together forever,” send a bouquet of nine roses.

10 ROSES
Let them know that their love is perfection with a bouquet of ten roses.

12 ROSES
A perfect dozen shouts "Be mine!"

13 ROSES
Tell someone that they'll be your friend forever with a bouquet of thirteen roses.

15 ROSES
Need to let someone know that you're sorry? Send them fifteen roses.

20 ROSES
Send the message "my feelings for you are truly sincere" with a bouquet of twenty roses.

21 ROSES
Twenty-one roses say, "I'm dedicated to you/"

24 ROSES
Two dozen roses shouts "I'm yours!"

25 ROSES
Send a message of congratulations with twenty-five roses.

36 ROSES
Three dozen says "I'm head over heels in love!"

40 ROSES
Forty roses says, "my love for you is genuine."

50 ROSES
To express a love that knows no bounds, send a bouquet that's equally as limitless - filled with fifty (or more) beautiful luxurious roses.

99 Roses
I will love you for as long as I live

100 Roses
Harmoniously together in a century; remaining devoted as couple till ripe-old age

101 Roses
You are my one and only love

108 Roses
Please marry me!

365 Roses
Can't stop thinking about you, each and everyday

999 Roses
Everlasting and Eternal love

Married or Single II

Dear Diary,

Interesting topic to share. Helping a friend with her studies on human behaviour and found this article and thought it was quite interesting to share...

Five Reasons to get married and Five Reasons not to get married

To Marry or...Getting married is once in a lifetime decision for many people. When people wish to get married, invariably all of them expect a full life together. Very few would think of marriage as a short-term exercise. Hence, it is very much necessary that all aspects of a life together be fully analyzed before tying the knot. Usually men and women tend to have different perspectives about married life. It would be better to have open and honest discussion to sort out the possible future irritants or at least understand them so that some sort of compromise could be arrived at.

MEN
The reasons that a man looks at while desiring to marry her are in numerous. However, a few of them top the list in order of priority. For most men, the need of a woman in life is necessitated by the motherly love that he had received in his early life. He needs a woman who can show him the same love and who could fulfill his physical and emotional needs. That is why many men look for the same qualities in a woman that their mothers possess.

The second reason is to have a lifetime companion, who can share his desires and needs.

The third reason is love. When a man feels that he loves a particular woman, he wants to own her fully. This might appear to be a wrong reason but that is the way humans are made. Everybody likes to possess what he or she desires and human relationships are no different. In some cases, the man might marry a woman because she has become pregnant and is carrying his child. Certain men wish to marry a woman who is having the same career as his, so that they would be able to adapt to each other better. It is quite usual for a doctor to marry a doctor and a lawyer to marry a lawyer. They would be able to understand the work pattern and the workload of each other. However, few others are very particular that the woman is having a different profession, so that their interests do not clash. This choice depends on the outlook of the individual.

In short men marry women for the following main reasons.

The wish to continue the motherly love received in childhood.
Desire to have a lifetime companion.
The love the man has for the woman.
The woman having become pregnant by him.
To have a woman who has a similar career for easier adaptability.

WOMEN
Women also marry men for nearly the same reasons. However, one important reason that women have in marriage is to escape from parents that they do not like or from a parent who is abusive. Sometimes, men also marry for this reason but the number is much lesser than women.

So the reasons for a woman marrying a man can be enumerated as follows.
Wish to escape from parents.
Desire to have a lifetime companion.
Love for the man.
Having become pregnant by the man.
To have a man having a similar career for easier adaptability.

The reasons for getting married are quite obvious.

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On the other hand, the reasons for not getting married are much more complicated. In fact, it would be difficult to mention reasons for not getting married. However, the reasons for a marriage becoming a failure could be discussed with more ease. There are several jokes about marriage but nearly all of them are at the expense of the woman. There should be some strong reasons for that. Probably, the main reasons are the innumerable needs that women have that drain the purse of a man and the continuous nagging that women indulge in after marriage. One joke says that a successful man is one who can make more money than his wife spends but a successful woman is one who finds such a man. Many women tend to nag the men too much after marriage. They try to compare their husbands with other men who are more successful in life, which is resented by the husbands. Wives also tend to give free advice to men as to what they should and should not do, which is also not liked by many men.

Infidelity is one more reason that could harm the institution of marriage. Both men and women, who are quite possessive, would be repelled when they come to know about extra-marital relationships, leading to separation. Physical incompatibility is the cause for break-up in several cases. Even loss of interest in sexual relationship after some time could lead to a break-up of the marriage. Finally, the conflict in tastes and interests that appeared insignificant before the marriage starts to take a larger picture in married life. Disagreements increase, resulting in final separation.

Even though it would look absurd if we list reasons for not getting married, we could list the reasons that break-up marriage.

• Over-spending by the wife and living beyond the man's income
• Continuous nagging, comparing the man to others more successful, and giving unwarranted advice
• Infidelity
• Physical incompatibility or sharp decrease in sexual interest
• Conflict in tastes and interests leading to disagreements and fight

Marriage or Single

Dear Diary,

She has been driven up hill by her peers, relatives and worst of all her family to get married... people trying to arrange marriage for her...

“What is at all compelling about marriage? Why would we even want to be married?” She asked herself. "What's wrong with being Single??"

"Single gives you freedom, zero committment. less worries for kids, partner or watsoever.. if there's anything you have to worry it's yourself," she claim...

She simply can't understand...It could be all the surrounding propelling factor that keep her away from marriage. The jovious and tomboyish character never fail to make her popular among guys and made them her buddies..

From young this big kid was like the elder son of the family, with the competitiveness, she was far too independent for her own good and had been through pretty much more than what anyone her age would done so. Despite her happy family, she have seen too much of the seductive world, the many poker face and what else the ugly sight of human.

Broken marriages, devoted husbands who stray... the author had properly seen too much...so much that there was no faith in marriage...

Or maybe she was deceiving herself all along..for all She wanted was to bury those beautiful memories deep down for no one can replace that special one...the pain still hurts despite the conceal flawless skin. She's just hoping for his return.. the return that is never possible.. unless god can bring him back alive

She ponders.....

Would she gather that courage to get married? Stay determined and stand firm on Singlehood? Or would marriage is for the sake of marriage for others?

[Stay tune...]
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[Attitude Princess]

Was reading this interesting article, and thought I could share with my readers...

People marry to get company that they would not get if they were single. Nobody wants to return to an empty home, which is what happens if you do not marry. Isolation can be killing. Studies have shown that isolation can be harmful to health as heavy smoking or drinking.

It is only in the movies that bachelors look young and carefree. If you see men who are single, after the age of 28 or so, you will find that they look older and more worn out than married persons of the same age. Scores of studies done in North America and Western Europe shows that married people enjoy better health than singles. They also live longer.

Take mental health for instance. Singles outnumber married individuals by three to one in mental hospitals. Outnumbering the singles however, are widowed people, testifying to a fact that the death of a spouse is one of life's most stressful events.

However, data shows that divorce can unbalance a married individual. Divorced people in mental hospitals one and a half times, some studies shows. Single men are nearly twice as likely to commit suicide as married men. Divorced and widowed men, however, were even more suicidal than single men. Looking at this data it is worth examining why marriage contributes to health and longevity and why being single has the reverse effect. The answer is simple.

People who are married and especially those with children, drink and drive less, take drugs less, and engage in less risky behavior. They feel responsible for their wife and children while an unencumbered bachelor tends to be more reckless. Medical studies confirm that the benefits from marriage are many.

Married people not only have lower rates for a variety of illness, they are less accident-prone than singles. Singles also are far more likely to have a car accident or die of diseases of the liver, largely caused by drinking liquor. Research shows that married people drink least, the widowed, divorced or separated the most.

Heavy drinkers are also heavy smokers. Married people are happier than singles because man is a social animal and loneliness depresses him because human being grow up with close relationships and cannot cope with isolation.

A man lives in a family for many years after he is born. In school and college, he has friends. When he begins a job, he has office colleagues. But it is only at home as a bachelor that he is all alone. He cannot endure that. That is why you find men getting married soon after they begin working.

Finally marriage derives its strength from a human being's need to perpetuate himself beyond death by producing children. This evolutionary need is so strong that even an enlightened thinker like Bertrand Russell wrote that people unable to have children begin to find life meaningless because there is nothing to connect them with a distant future when they would not be alive.

The Simian Line

Dear Diary,

Since the tragedy which happens years back, the author have always wanted to find out more about the Simian Line also known as "Duan Zhang" in chinese.

Every since the author was just a kid, people have been telling her that she is a jinx. A female with a simian line is supposed to have bad luck and would bring bad luck to her loved ones... The author was never superstitious till the tragedy strikes... Unfortunately, the death of the beloved did cast a mark in the heart. The family of the decesased refused to forgive her and had all responsibility hung over the author...

She has no turning back, no option but to think that she was respionsible for the darkness... no one else knew about this... it seems like a forgotten past but the scar never get faded off... the memory is still as clear as ever. The memory of the pointing finger, the memory of the heart shattering pain for the lost of her beloved.

She never had the courage to face the reality, to reveal the truth of the simian line for she fear that the truth might be too harsh to bear.

Fortunately, she chance upon the truth... for once light seem to have brighted the dark endless tunnel. For once, she had learn to face the reality, letting the heavy accusation off her fragile shoulder. The scar is not erasable but she had learn to move on for she know, she with the simian palm line is not a jinx. She could have been a genius, a hidden talent, an achiever... she unlike others is unique, is special.

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All about Simian
Most people have two major transverse lines in the upper half of the palm. In Palmistry and Hand Analysis these are called the Heart Line and the Head Line.
When the Heart Line and Head Line are fused together, only one major line is present, and it extends all the way across the hand from edge to edge. This is called a "Simian Line", or "Simian Crease". Medical references call it the "proximal transverse palmar crease" or "single palmar crease".

When the Simian Line occurs, the "Great Quadrangle" is entirely missing. There is no distinction between what is desired (the Heart) and what is thought (the Head). The result is an incredible intensity of nature, but a strong tendency to rush into all things without thinking them through.
Also note that without the Great Quadrangle, we have a completely closed-minded individual. Because they are so focussed on a particular thought, all else is excluded.

In another possible appearance of the Simian Line, the lines of Head, Heart, and Life are all joined. All the above traits apply, but even more intensely, since there is now no distinction between the thoughts, desires, and life itself.

The Simian Line gives the ability to focus on one thing, absolutely, to the exclusion of all else. These people generally achieve and accomplish far more than most, developing techniques and inventions that will last for generations. They also experience far more misfortune than most, usually due to the same intensity that drives them. A truly double-edged sword.

People with Simian Lines generally live their life differently than most other people who do not have Simian Lines. Not necessarily living better nor worse. Just living more intensely with an undercurrent of uneasiness

Some Advice for those who have the Simian Line:
Your ambition for success in business endeavors will be strong, as will be the tendency to shut out all else in persuit of these ambitions. Strive to learn how thought and emotion are separate parts of the psyche - allow them to disagree once in a while, and not be narrow-minded or judgemental in all your beliefs.

Discover the workings of the human nervous system in order to understand what assists life, and what harms it. In this way, work to eliminate your hidden drive towards self-destruction.
You have a great deal of power at your disposal - always use it to your benefit. Stay true and strong. If you need help in dealing with your compulsions, many resources are available.

Why Man Cheat

Dear Diary,

I was reading this article on why man Cheat... and in the survey they conducted:

The number ONE reason for straying is Emotional Dissatisfaction, which an astounding 48 percent of cheating men listed as the main trigger. Only 8 percent of men listed sexual dissatisfaction as the primary factor in their infidelity. In fact, just 12 percent of cheating husbands said their mistress was more physically attractive than their wife.

I belive this statistic is equally true for a woman...

I have to agree to some extend that like woman, Man needs to be love,needs to feel the love... I have seen many uncles whose wife are far more attractive than the mistress. It is not all amout the physical appearance anymore as you aged and mature...

It's easy for long-term couples to start taking each other for granted, and the things you loved about your partner when you first met may have faded over time. Everything seems to be a norm.. so it's important to keep expressing that feeling of admiration for each other, keep the sparks growing:

Thank him when he does something nice for you, and aim to give him at least one sincere compliment everyday -- be it a physical asset ("You look delicious in this shirt!") or a personality trait. ("Thank you for being so supportive."). Give him a well deserved big hug/kiss when he gets home after a bad day at work.. When you express appreciation for your partner, it reassures him your love and helps boosts his self-esteem.

Guess, quality time is equally important for a couple to make sure the marriage stays strong. How often it occurs to a couple, that they set aside too much time for their work and kids that they neglect their partner... so set aside at least ten minutes everyday just for each other. Just the 2 of you... Any activity that reconnects you and nurtures your bond counts as quality couple time -- whether it's a lazy weekend lounging around, cooking something together, Curdling together for a pillow talk before you go to sleep, a quiet evening of romantic candle light dinner at home alone without the kids, or even a mid-week lunch date. All these special moments together add up to reinforce your intimacy as a couple.

Believe me not, I may not be married but I have seen far more broken marriage than you would have imagine...

It takes 2 hands to clap. Start loving and appreciating your partner before you lost him/her..

10 Things Men Hate About Women

Dear Diary,

You see what most women hate about men... so how about the reverse, what are the top 10 things Men hate about women...here goes:

One
Men hate the way women jump to conclusions and asumptions with out knowing all the facts surrouding the situation. Women see a situation and immediatly jump to the most logical explanation with out asking any questions. Then when men try to explain the womans mind is already made up with their own dillusion and they think they are right. Heres an example...
What happened my sandwich you ate it on me.... Eh no I didn't the dog must have taken it... Eh no he didn't you ate it.... Look the dog is eating it in the corner there look... Well you gave it to him then, there is no way the dog could have taken it off the plate... Yeah sure hunny what ever..

Two
Women love to make plans without consulting us first, just as we think that we are going to have a handy weekend and just relax ourselves. Who should walk into crush our spirt, only herself, with great news on how she is got other plans in mind. And when we make plan to do something we get... Eh no your not your doing this instead... Famous words, I told you during the week.. If you told us during the week we wouldn't have made our plans to relax for the weekend, would we..

Three
We don't want to know your every step of the day. Women have a habit of saying, guess what happenend to me today... What happend honey ? thinking you would just tell us the actual event of what happend. But no you tell us everything from the minute you left the house all the way up to what happend and everything in between... And you then wonder why we dont listen to you... Just give us the facts we dont want to know what kind of trouble you had finding a parking spot, or how much of a bitch your boss is or if a work college wore the same clothes as you... we just dont want to know.

Four
We hate your total disregard in our input in dicisions. Women ask our advice and then dont take it.. For example... There is somebody talking about me in work and she is a total bitch what should I do... Confront her and tell her how much of a bitch she is if front of everybody and be little her just like she is behind your back.. Yeah I will thanks I'll do it first thing tomorrow... After work that day... So did you do it ? Eh no I never got a chance.. how could you not get the chance she works beside you... Men confront men and let them know what they think of each other all the time. Thats how its done, usually when we have our differances a side we know where we stand and just get on afterwards.

Five
We hate the way you question everything we do, we can not leave the house without telling you where we are going... Why do women do this and then acuse us of being controling... We dont ask women where they are going or what they are doing usually because it sparks an argument.. Its just not worth the hassel to ask.

Six
Dont ask us what clothes go with what because we can't tell you, we dont know what you mean. All we can tell you is trousers go on your legs and a jumper or a blouse will cover your boobs and you might want to put some shoes on. One of our shirts will do for saturday or sunday mornings because this is all you will need. It is up to you dress yourself up we wouldn't have a clue... Sure whatever we say you just go with something else.

Seven
Men hate shopping, especially clothes shopping. Again we dont know what colours go with what or what handbag goes with what shoes. The truth be known we actually dont care, the only thing on our minds is when is this going to stop, so I can get home and relax. When men shop we know exactly what we want and just go for those items, women on the other hand might have an idea of what they want but could spend the whole day arsing around different shops.

Eight
Stating the obvious is another great trait of the female of our kind. Women always seem to say the most obvious thing in any event, such as something falling, something breaking down or making a loud noise or almost everything. Heres a few examples... I couldn't stop it from falling... Its a bit obvious you couldnt stop it if its broken on the ground... We'll have to clean that up... Well we are hardly going to leave it there are we... That wont fit in there... Right again honey it wont sure look at the size of it... I have come to the conclusion that they only state the obvious to buy them time to see our reaction.. Yes honey I will fix it, I will clean it up, you broke it but sure just because you stated the obvious and I love you, I will get it..

Nine
We hate interuptions if we are doing something, women will call men from the other room and expect us to go to them if they want to talk to us.. Beckond to attention like a dog would be.. Come here I want to talk to you, no fear of her getting up and coming to talk to you, oh no, we have to go to you. If men try and pull the same trick we get answered by.... Well you know where I am, you come here im busy... We are treated like dogs men and they see us as them too... After a while it becomes a habit and when we want to talk to them or they us, we just get up and go without thinking about it.

Ten
Women give out about the toilet seat being up constantly. Would'nt it be the same job for us to put it down than it would for you to put up. We dont ask you to put the seat up when you are finished so what gives..

Top Ten Things Women Hate About Men

Dear Diary,

I was surfing the net and I found this interesting articles... Top 10 things women hate about men... Geez... Let's see what they have got...

1. Ego!
We fail to understand why men can stop and ask for direction till it’s 100 kms into the wrong direction?! Like, isn’t it more sensible to just ask for directions, you save on time, petrol and energy?

[Attitude Princess] - I must agree to that... 80% of the Asian guys I knew are Egoistic... but then again... it isn't the thing I hate about guys... It's ok to have ego I think...and don't everyone have got ego? I think women have egos too...

2. Would it kill to remember?
They remember the names of footballers from NFL and the scores each player has made, but cannot for the life them remember birthdays, anniversaries and buying gifts. What kind selective memory is that?

[Attitude Princess] - Geez... I think I can remember the MAN U players name better too... Heehee.. then again there's reminders on mobile these days...

3. Ogling:
They love to ogle at women (read breasts), even when they are with their date. Like, how rude!

[Attitude Princess] - Gosh... but.. I Ogle at charming guys too... don't you... ?!

4. Double talk:
They nod their heads during a talk about gender equality, and then insist on paying the bills during a date, because it is not manly enough to let the woman pay. Yeah, right! At least, not when someone could be watching.

[Attitude Princess] - Well...What's the problem with you gals.. aren't you happier that someone is willing to pay for you?? And if matters so much, what are you gals different from the guys... the ego is creating a effect on you, isn't?


5. Lazy men:
Talking about gender equality and men supporting it, how about giving us a hand with household chores?

[Attitude Princess] - Ok, for once I agree with what's mentioned so far... I cant stand it when guys totally sit there like an emperor and leave all the chores to their loved ones...

6. Possessive… ugh!
They are extremely possessive. Whatever makes them so insecure as opposed to the manly image they like portray?

[Attitude Princess] - Hmm... Okie, I agree to this as well... indeed I can't stand possessive guys...give me a break... don't stop me from whatever I am gng to wear, who i am gng out with when I don't meddle with ur biz... but then again.... I have seen more possessive gals than guys... so..??

7. Hypocrisy:
They love to hang out with “cool babes”, but when it comes to marriage they want a “simple homely girl”. Guys, looks like you have around two centuries of catching up to do. And… please hurry with it!

[Attitude Princess] - Hahaha.... Well well well.... I think this applies to the gals too... i wouldn't want my loved ones to be drop dead gorgeous... I rather he's a plain tom.. =p

8. The basics of life:
Life without booze, sex and cigarettes is just unthinkable. And, no, I haven’t figured the order of importance.

[Attitude Princess] - I have to agree to a certain extend.. but...

9. The phallic symbol:
They have a birth right over the Remote control. Seems it is more like a phallic symbol that they need to carry around at home, I guess.

[Attitude Princess] - Guess I don't have that kinda problem....

10. Superman!
Think of themselves to be exalted beings - a mechanic, technician, plumber and financial advisor all rolled into one. We might have liked that about you, if you didn’t make such a big deal out of it!

[Attitude Princess] - lolx... isn't this pretty much the same as being ego?? keke.. seems like the author has got nothing much to write..

Goodness... my gfs are screaming at my comment as I say my thought aloud... i don't quite agree to the author who comes out with this top ten list.. wonder how she comes out with it.. maybe i hang out too much with guys.. or i am too boyish to come to terms with the majority ladies... what's ur say...

5 Guys You Should Never Date

Dear Diary,

I was reading this article about "5 Guys You Should Never Date" and I thought I should share it with my readers especially to my 2 friends J & M whose both healing from the broken hearts....

If you find yourself having a series of bad luck with men, don't blame your luck just yet – you've probably been getting into a relationship with the wrong guy

1. Married men
It’s obvious why dating married men is a bad idea.

Falling in love with a guy who already belongs to someone else entails countless painful sacrifices on your part: You cannot have him all for yourself, you have to keep your affair a secret, you can’t be seen together in public, and he can only call you when he can find the time away from his family and friends.

Not to mention all the potential stigmas that could plague you if your relationship is exposed.And you have to recognize the real possibility that after all that you've gone through for him, he’s not even contemplating on leaving his wife. "Although some people do find the love of their lives whilst they are still with someone else, a good rule of thumb is that if someone doesn’t leave their marriage within six months, they probably never will," says Helmanis.

The only married man worth considering? He’s the one who tells you to leave him alone and he’ll find you if/when he leaves his marriage, Helmanis adds.

2. Dominator
This guy takes an interest in everything you do, from the way you dress, who's in your phone list, the way you arrange your room to how your friends treat you.

At first it may feel wonderful to have this attentive man who genuinely cares about what's going on in your life, "but pretty soon he is telling you that you fold the laundry wrong (although he never does any) and that your best friend is boring (he doesn't like anyone else to have any influence)," warns Helmanis.

A control freak can be extremely charming in a new relationship, but once he feels secure he starts to become pushy and controlling. And unless he can control the other person, he fears he will lose her or that his own life will become chaotic.

His tyrannical behavior soon makes life miserable for his partner."Being a control freak is not about love, although he’ll tell you it is: It’s about power," says Helmanis, "Leave, before your confidence does."

3. Broken Heart
He's the guy who seems so sensitive and caring when you first met and tells you the heart-wrenching story of his past broken relationship. And soon you’ll find out that he's still nursing a broken heart from the relationship he had with someone ten years ago.

"Basically, you’re transitional woman in a nurse's uniform," says Helmanis.

Face it, if he lives in a haze of self-indulgent gloom and loves the drama of his own misery, you’ll never get through no matter how much time you spend trying to mend his broken heart. So give up and get going.

4. Smoothie
He's suave, sports designer suits, has a glitzy social life, owns an expensive apartment and zips around town in a flashy convertible.

He loves lavishing women with lots of attention, and has you feeling like a princess with his constant showers of gifts, flowers and exotic dinners.Problem is, you may not be the only chick in this Casanova's life.

Men like that are very likely to be a misogynist, warns Helmanis, "He can't see past the skirt to one special individual."

5. The Drain
You'll recognize a Drain because this guy constantly saps you – emotionally, financially and/or physically. He hates his life, can't stop complaining about his job, blames everyone else for his own laziness, and essentially relies on you to bolster his poor self-image.

"Other Drains include men who always seem to be borrowing money because they have maxed out their credit cards, who lose their temper over nothing and use you as an emotional punchbag," says Helmanis.

Guys like that are really nothing more than selfish, spoiled whiners who don’t understand the concept of responsibility or self-respect. Get them out of your life and lock the doors.

Damns..don't you feel that the author was very right about the 5 wrong guys that you should not go for??~!! Then again after eliminating all the 5 types I doubt the ladies out there has much better ones left....hahaha...well.. I guess it's better off staying single ...no wories, no heart breaks.. Cheers...

So J & M, cheer up. It's no big deal losing a guy..anyway, it's their lost.. get on with your life ya..
Take care...

Blind by Greed...

Dear Diary,

Not long ago, I met up with Exxx when he told us about one of our ex-colleague having a tough time settling his law case...

Just a moment ago when buddy send the latest channel news asia article to me... he was convicted... it was all mixed feeling when i see the article...

Sorta pity him a little... but Felt that he was extremely foolish... stupid if I have to put it the crude way... now all his effort has gone to drain... (not like he's those driven sort) but... jail over that little sum of money? It's not worthwhile... I am not saying he's doing the right thing or for that matter agree to his actions but if you are blind by greed shouldn't be a bigger pool of money?

Why would someone even take the risk to be jailed/ fine/ lose his career and future and get stained for life at his prime age over 30K -40K???

It doesn't make sense... Dumbass...

Even if it's 500K, I wouldn't take that risk. If there's any risk that I wanna take, I rather leverage and put the money in investments. At least, the money I learn is faster, probably more and most importantly it's legal. The most I lose is 500K and I go bankrupt... which is not a big deal since I am young and I can easily earn that amount back...

What can I say... I hope he learns his leason.... but even so... it's too much a price to pay...

Good luck to him...

The news article is as below:
http://www.channelnewsasia.com/stories/singaporelocalnews/view/360768/1/.html

(he do look like some convict in that photo... hahaha.. Oppz I shan't be so crude..)

Missing you....

Dear Diary,

I am gng to miss my friends cum co-workers... It's a difficult decision to make.. especially it this point of time when the implementation and the audit is just weeks away....

I am probably a disappointment but when opportunities stike I just have to grap it... haiz.. people are selfish... so do i.. I guess my true friends would be happy for me...

Sad to say goodbye... but like what 'Papa F' said... it's a small world.. and it's just part of life.. we can still catch up... it's so touching that I hear encouraging words from him.. he has always been such a great pilla of support... i recall how my tears rolled when i broke the news to him over the email.... I am going to miss

it's sad to why do pple regret only after they lose sth... they ought to have treasured it shldn't they...

PDA

Dear Diary,

Took this using my mobile camera... this couple has been acting passionately while in the train..

Now even up the escalator.. the guy's hand cant stop meddling beneath his gf's mini shirt...

Duhz... if you wanna F***, do it at home or hotel.. don't mis-lead the younger generation...

Boys and girls

Learn to behave yourselves in public...
Don't do that k.. it's a disgrace to your parents.

誓言-求佛

Dear Diary,

I heard this in Cheverons and kinda fell for it... It's sang by some china singer i think.. and is kinda Cheena or should i say it's kinda traditional syle of singing... whatever you prefer to call it... Hope you like it too...

My 24th Birthday (06)

Dear Diary,

Hello... It's been like Aaages since I blogged... so tight up with work... Anyway, there's just zillion of things that I wanna update, but didn't know where to begin with.. Geez..

Before I get my thoughts straighten out, here's some photos of my 24th Birthday which I promise.. ya ya.. i know since last year.. but better late than never right...

It was a joyous week for me last year... I had a 1 week celebration like my 23rd Birthday...

I vividly recall that Zoe & Alan were the first to book me... I was kind surprise that they still remember my birthday since we are out of school now and everyone is busy with work and stuff..
So touched... Zoe even got me my favourite Royce Chocolate.. I had done a 'free' advert for Royce before so I shan't say it again...

Following which was a birthday celebration throw by the E family. Guess what, we has steam buffet at Zhen Fa at Marina... I swear never to go again after that worm in the crab incident, but well since they are still students and it' probably one of the more affordable area which can accommodate so many of us... I was kana terkan obviously. Was forced to blow out my birthday candles like from 2 tables away... You bet, it's tough, the flame hardly flickered. Thank god for the gust of wind that came in time to save me from the ordeal. Nevertheless, I had fun and was certainly very touched with the juniors chipping in money to celebrate with me, they even got me a very pretty necklace which I was told cost them quite a bit. Kinda make me feel guilty for being a lousy senior... lol..

Then while I was in office, I had a surprise celebrating over lunch from some co-workers. It's was simple but enough to make me smile from ear to ear... further more, the babies got me my favourite lilies as birthday present. I was kinda touched. It was beautiful and the fragrance is chanting...

In the night, the babies as well as some ex-interns, and my friends had another celebration with me... we went to long bar and I was called on to the stage to dance... OMG.. i was totally embarrass. I wanted to retreat but this nice 'ang mo' was gentlemen enough to offer his hand to dance with me. Needless to say all this 'credit' goes to baby Darren who left early. I was a little disappointed at fist only to realised that he celebrated with me despite feeling unwell (he was diagnosed with food poisoning). All the fun, laughter and embarrassment no doubt made my 24th birthday a memorable one.

Following day, I met up with my sec school buddies whom gave me and evelyn a surprise celebration. We had dinner at giraffe and end of with KTV. It was a crazy night and I was more than happy to be able to catch u with these 'old' gang.

The last celebration I had was not within the week but months later... lol.. it was from my 2 buddies, bestest friend. They really caught me off- guard. I mean it was so so long after my birthday and they brought me to mount faber and gave me a huge surprise. A simple celebration I would call it, but one that carves deep in the heart. Really appreciate their effort...

So much rattling, below are some photos compiled... I'll update soon

NYDC@ Orchard 30th June

Dear Diary,

Meet up with Esjay to catch up... Headed out in the evening... headed to Orchard to catch the last day of sales before the increase in GST to 7%... OMG.. if you have gone to orchard the same day.. you would have met the same traffic we did... it's horrible.. Jam Jam Jam... After much manipulating of the vehicle and wait for lots... we finally manage to hop out of the car...

Went to few places to shop around... I love shopping with Esjay.. he always amaze me with his knowledge on all the different trend and fashion sense...

I am pretty much a plain Jane.. I dress in my own fashion sense..basically that means Simple.. I have always felt that simplicity is the best... I do not follow the trend blindly.. I pick up only those styles which I know suits me best.. Colour is important..

Anyway... Esjay brought me around.. I am more of window shopping while Esjay looks for items in his shopping list... Anyway.. I felt a little bad abt SJ buying the pair of cargo pants from Urban. I like that dirty green cargo.. style.. it makes him look young and style.. I told him my opinion and he bought the pants...but i guess.. it happen that he realised he have sth similar in his wardrobe.. which makes him feel the pinch.. *Guilty*

We end of at NYDC for Dinner where he shows me his simply COOL new camera... I am so Jealous.. it's so awesome.. He's still not too good at his new camera.. but we took some photos.. Geez.. I love it.. the colour is so attractive... Alreadi.. some photos below: -

Here are my favourite photo of the day..
*Below*

of course after some touch up and effect...

I like the dreamy effect....

This vintage effect is pretty nice right?? hahah...

Best Photo Taken in June '07

Dear Diary,

Would Be There - Redwan Ali

Dear Diary,

I have been searching for this song by Redwan Ali for ages... I heard it in this Channel 8 TV drama Mars Vs Venus ... and almost every epi they would play this English Love song...

Some how the song creep into my heart. I just fell in LOVE with that song... totally mesmerised. It's just so sweet and touching... So much so that I would melt if I hear someone sing this for me... hehe...I don't usually watch chinese dama but for the sake of the song, I switch on my TV everyday and sit by the TV praying hard that they would play the song.

I was so crazy for the song that I did many other crazy things... I recorded the chorus using my mobile while it was playing, then I requested to know how I can download the song from TCS, I asked my friends from TCS...I signed petition for Redwan Ali, so that he an have his own album.. but all the effort didn't pay off.

(p/s: FYI, Redwan Ali a local singer for Drama, he has quite a few nice song, I think the other one is called 'Say You Love Me')

All I got was just the short section of the recorded Chorus, moreover it was in this weird file type which I can convert to WMA or MP3 format.. pissed..

Lynn Being nice, help me to record a section of it in MP3 format with some device that she has at home.. But that was not ENOUGH!!!

I was craving for more. I played the song repeatedly till I could memorised the chorus completely... Yes the craving was not eased...like those of drug addict...

Then appear my saviour... Meet up with Dennis & Alfred for Dinner during Katty's Farewell.
Somehow it pays to tell Dennis I was looking for the song, cause he asked if I found the song and I was like.. "NO".. *Sob Sob* He surprised me when he told me he got the song... I was practically exclaiming "Really" so loudly... I couldn't believe my ears....

But he KNS... refused to send to me... till I found that the source came from Alfred who got it from his colleagues bla bla... Alfred being Mr Nice Guy gave me the song ...

I am over joyed...Then again I have to Thank Dennis, otherwise I won't be able to get the song...

So to utilised the song properly for all my lovely friends that help me to get the song, I wrote the lyrics out for all the Fans for the song... You probably have a hard time getting the song because Redwan Ali is a local singer and you won't get his lyrics/ songs so easily...

Anyway, here goes:


Would Be There Lyrics


If I were blue Would you be there for me
And whisper in my ear that’s ok
Would you stand by me Let me hold you tight
And say you love me one more time

If I feel good Would you slow dance with me
And touch my lips with tender loving kiss

Would you die for me Would you run w me
And never look back

Would you be there to love to be with me
Would you swear that your love is always true
Would you say that you’ll always be the one
To take my breath away

Would you be there to love to be with me
Would you swear that your love is always true
Would you say that you’ll always be the one
To take my breath away

Would you be there

If I am awake, would you still think of me
And wish that you could hold me now
Would you die for me Would you run with me
All the way…

Would you b there to love to be with me
Would you swear that your love is always true
Would you say that you’ll always be the one
To take my breath away

Would you be there to save my soul tonight
Would you swear that your love is always true
Would you say that you’ll always be there
To kiss my pain away

Would you be there to love to be with me
Would you swear that your love is always true
Would you say that you’ll always be the one
To take my breath away

Would you be there to save my soul tonight
Would you swear that your love is always true
Would you say that you’ll always be there
To kiss my pain away

Would you be there

For me….

Farewell KTV Session 30th Apr

Dear Diary,

It's the last day for Dennis & Peipei...

I just felt weird... Pretty much mixed feelings I guess... As much as I am happy that they are able to find better opportunities outside where they would most probably felt more appreciated... I felt this pinch in the heart...

Honestly, I didn't bear to see them leave.. Yes.. I have to agree I am selfish... but who's not in this world.. Just a week ago Alfred left.. All my close gang are leaving one after another.. Suddenly the surrounding appears cold... I felt the roaring wave of chill and loneliness...

*Sigh*

I guess.. I'll just have to bear with it... I'll just drugged myself with the thought that I am not in a new environment and try to adapt to this new group of people and culture...

Anyway... Er jie, Desmond & myself treated Dennis to a Dim sum lunch... pretty nice... Think it's call Hong xin or sth... Pretty famous I heard..If you guys are keen to know exactly where, pop me a mail, I'll ask the guys.. they are kinda familiar with this place. The 4 of us had a good talk... I guess sub-consciously, our bond got stronger, and we knew each other a little better... Unfortunately, it was Uncle Dennis's last day... then again at least I have to agree that I did have a change in impression of him...at least sth good.. hahaha... I guess Er jie too.. after the very touching story that he said..

Anyhow... in the evening, We had KFC for dinner before heading to K-Box at Jurong entertainment centre. It was a fun night.. we had quite a number of people, including Alfred & Nic... they both left the company not too long ago... I was glad to see them ard.. kinda miss them.. The work environment without them kinda sux... it's not as chirpy as before.. I don't feel the warmth like a united family... Honestly, I drag setting off in the morning at times...

Not to mention, now Dennis and Pei left.. and Soon it's Lynn & Kat.. Argh... how sucky kinda feeling... *Eeel*

Nvm...Haiz.. Well someone once said this "There wouldn't be any meeting, if there's isn't any parting"...

I guess I shld pen off before my tears start whelming up...You guys shld look at the happy photos below.. We did have a fun night... at least the good memories remains.....

DF 28th Apr

Dear Diary,